Ask Ang (9/12): Grooming Down There?
"This is kind of embarrassing, but: I just started dating and I'm worried about sex. Specifically, I'm a girl, and I have hair down there. Am I supposed to shave or trim? Will guys or girls be turned off if I don't? How do you groom down there? I don't want to gross anyone out if we make it to the bedroom."
This is a great question and one that lots of people wonder about. Above al else, I want to say: your body is for you and no one else. No one gets to dictate how you look, dress, or behave. And if someone is grossed out by any part of you? Leave. They don’t deserve you and no one should make you feel like your body is wrong. That being said, what you do with your pubic hair is totally up to you! It’s completely natural and everyone has it, but people have different preferences for their own bodies, such as shaving, trimming, or leaving it untouched. You should know that removing your hair could increase your chances of experiencing irritation or infection since it usually creates microtears in your skin. If you do decide you want to remove your hair, there are many options, such as shaving, using depilatories (hair removal cream), or waxing. All of these methods come with their own benefits and drawbacks that depend on the texture of your hair, among many other things. I recommend doing some research on your own so that you can make an informed decision. And you're not locked into the choice you make; if something doesn't make you feel great, you can always try something else out.
What you should take away from this is that this is all YOUR DECISION. Try not to worry about what other people will think; your comfort and confidence is the most important thing. Have fun out there and remember to prioritize your own safety and happiness!