Ask Ang 2/12: Help! Things Keep Going Wrong During Sex!
I’m a newbie with sex, and as a bi woman I have sort of had sex with both guys and girls, but something has gone wrong each time. Either one of us can’t get off, I don’t know what to do with her clit/how to suck his dick, or he can’t get it in me. Welp...
Sex can be a little awkward sometimes! The best way to prevent things from going wrong and making sure that all parties are enjoying themselves is constant communication and relaxing. If you’re not sure what to do to make sure your partner gets off, ask them! Chances are they’ll know what they like and what they don’t. Stop to ask them if what you’re doing feels good, or what you can do to make it feel better. Same goes for you- if they’re doing something that is or isn’t working, guide them in the right direction. Constant communication means that both parties will have a much better time!
Also- if you’re really nervous or stressed, it makes it harder to get off or can cause you to tense up (causing fit issues). Tell your partner you need a moment, take some deep breaths and make sure you’re both totally comfortable and relaxed. Things should go a lot smoother!